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When you allow others to see you as a man of action, someone with a real passion for life that either extends far beyond your career, or has nothing at all to do with it (either is acceptable, as long as it is genuine) you are establishing yourself as an independent mind, a bold free spirit who is unchained by the psychological shackles of conformity. You are placing yourself in the company of revolutionary heroes (like George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, Benjamin Franklin), authors such as Faust, Dante, and Yeats, rock stars, major league athletes, and entrepreneurs and world-shapers from the infamous (P.T. Barnum, the mythical Dr. Frankenstein, Jesse James, Andrew Carnegie) to the near historically divine (Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Napoleon Hill, Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Queen Elizabeth, et cie.) Passion is for winners, those who “dare” and “do” and actually LIVE life. They may climb to great heights or get beaten down time and again. They may spend years in squalor, or even self-imposed poverty only to suddenly explode on the world stage a hero (or a really cool villain). Good or bad, humanitarian or not, one thing the most-remembered people in history have is a drive to DO something in life, to do something WITH the time they have. It is the rest of us who sit around watching TV or goofing off on the internet (admittedly: first I was addicted to Doom, then Quake, Halo, counter-Strike, WoW . . .) who get to watch these giants create the world around them. Women f-l-o-c-k to these men (and women) and fight over their attention. Wouldn’t it be nice to have women fighting over you?
You don’t need a new haircut, a red tie, or a striped shirt. You need passion. It’s not about driving a Ferrari (although Ferraris DO help, if you can afford the insurance and the maintenance that comes with driving YOUR Ferrari in the city). It is about looking inside you and telling yourself that you are tired of a shit-sandwich life. Spend a few bucks and watch an old film called Network. Watch it for the story, but pay attention to the part where the TV News Anchorman loses it on live TV and tells his audience to go to their window and shout “I’m as mad as hell—and I’m not going to take it anymore!” Really watch that scene. Record it on your iPod. Replay it in your mind over and over. Dig down into your subconscious and convince yourself once and for all that “this life is NOT a dress rehearsal.” You don’t get to put on your lifestyle costume and practice for your turn on stage. This-is-it. Welcome to suckville, or get the Hell out of Dodge City. It is your choice. Burn into your consciousness that you are going to have some FUN in your life and that fun will be based on your passion(s). Start small if you have to but start now, and start living your dreams. Casually let other people see it written all over you.
You know why punk rockers get punk rock chicks? It’s because when you have a shaved head with a bright green mohawk, a safety pin through your cheek, and all you ever wear is ratted up jeans and a leather jacket with spikes, it is pretty obvious who and what you are. The women who are LOOKING FOR a rebel, someone to drink with, fuck with, slam dance with, and have a good time pissing off mommy and daddy naturally gravitate to the man who has the balls to openly say “fuck you!” to society. And who’s to say that guy isn’t an eBay millionaire, or a successful record producer? You don’t have to shave your head to get a date tonight, but it HELPS if you figure out just who the fuck you are and stop hiding behind a berka of conformity. Women want men who know who they are and chase life down, so in turn they can feel safe with their man’s decisions. Women want to have fun too, but society has laid down some serious laws that dictate that YOU señor must be a superior specimen if you want women to fawn all over you. The fastest way to “instantly appear” better than you really are is to have (or convincingly fake) a real passion in life: hiking, cycling, fencing, sailing, art, poetry, food creation (master chefs get l-a-i-d!), politics (find a cause and be an activist!), even religion can make you popular among a certain type of women. You have to find out what you can stand long enough to exploit as a true passion, and show it to the world.
. . . which brings us to a very important distinction. Having a passion and letting other people see it is entirely different from posing, or putting on a show hoping that women will be impressed. If you have a deep appreciation for the wordsmithery of Homer and Shakespeare, share it casually with the women in your life and hone your skills at injecting your passion into any conversation (along with your reputation among available women in your social network). Don’t bludgeon women with rants on how King Lear was incomparable to The Inferno, or bury women you want to date with leaf-sheets of the prose of Frost. The world has far too many “Hey! Look at me!” idiots rampaging about, making the rest of us look bad alongside them. Don’t add to their number. Show what you have by letting it write itself all over you naturally, and if you have to “approach and explain” your passion to a woman, do so inquisitively. Ask her if she is familiar with ______, or notice something about her (or what she is doing, wearing, talking about, reading, etc.) that you can start with and transform into your revelation of your passion, and see if she takes the bait.
What you need to do is to get up and get out and have something about you that is special and unique, or at least interesting enough for her to be curious about. And you don’t have to tell her everything about it. Establish enough of a bond to pique her interest and ask her about herself. Let her see just enough of your passion to be impressed, but don’t waste your time trying to impress her. That is what you passion is for: to get her interested enough for her to blather on and on about herself (to impress you), while you look for ways to strengthen your bond and her interest in you, which is another article. For the moment, you need to stop reading and start doing, so you can start . . .
Don’t let circumstance dictate your reality. Start right now and build where you can, cut waste, and focus on winning.
