How to pick up women (the first in a series of articles consisting of random thoughts and links to advice books)
Meeting women and asking them out is one of man’s biggest problems throughout history. This is why money is so popular. Money makes picking up women easier, and the more you have, the easier it gets. Our book was written for all of us who don’t have a few million dollars lying around in the bank that we can impress women with. In fact, the techniques in this book work even if you are broke and homeless (as long as you are clean and can speak clearly), because you can always crash at her place for a few days “until your inheritance check clears”. This is not a book on “how to score with every skirt in Manhattan,” or how to pick up women exclusively at bar and nightclubs. It is not a book on how to stop living your life and invest all of your time picking up women. This book details the easiest ways to meet girls, without spending any money, so you can live your life, and get dates when you want them, without sacrificing your money or time chasing women. Every dollar you save NOT spending money on women to get laid is a dollar you can invest in your future. Think about that. How much money do you spend directly and indirectly every year on women. If you actually sat down and ran the numbers (even a fair estimate) you would be shocked at how many thousands of dollars you waste every year. We can save you that money, so you can put in back in your own pocket.
If all that matters to you right now is “mastering women,” or learning how to pick up on women with low self-esteem in bars, listen to Tom Leykis, or attend one of Mystery’s seminars. If you want to learn how to hypnotize women into having sex with you or brainwash women into thinking you are sexy, read Ross Jeffries’ books. These are all accepted ways of getting laid. But if you actually have a life and just want to get a girlfriend, or a few dates to enhance your enjoyment of life, this is the book for you. The whole process will take 30 days to master the basics, and from there you will be able to get dates whenever you want as long as there are attractive women around. All of the techniques spelled out in this book are used by players and pros. These are the basics and they will get you laid. They are the bedrock foundation of any successful seduction, whether your approach is the alpha male, shy reluctant hero, mysterious stranger, funny guy, hero du jour, or any other method you subscribe to.
The problem is that you see women every day, everywhere you go, but how many of them do you actually ask out? When you see a girl at the gym, do you walk right up and ask her out? Or do you watch her and wonder how to get her to give you her phone number? This is why we advocate learning how to approach women anywhere, at any time, not just attention whores in bars and nightclubs. The point is to find women you will actually like after you have sex with them, because you might want to go back for seconds. If all you focus on are women you have absolutely no interest in (other than sexual), you are shooting yourself in the foot, and probably spending far too much time, energy, and money to get laid. The first thing you will learn is how to approach ANY WOMAN, ANYWHERE and have her actually interested in hearing what you have to say. Your attraction to this girl may be her breasts or her mind, or both! By learning and mastering the basics you can just as easily meet your dream-girl as you can meet a girl to fuck.
It’s those first 30 seconds that hold most men back from approaching the women they want the most. Approaching women you have no real interest in (other than purely sexual) is easy once you have a personal pattern you follow. But what about that girl you would really hit it off with? When we have chemistry with someone, it usually shows itself even before we meet. We feel an attraction to them, sometimes even before we see them. We all have a level of “psychic radar” that extends outward, and while it is stronger in some of us than it is in others, everyone can be trained. Think of it like an extra set of muscles that you need to learn how to exercise. When our chemistry closely matches someone else’s in our vicinity we can usually “smell it” and our conditional behavioral training forces us toward them or pushes us away out of fear or shyness. This is greatly heightened with women we want to have sex with, and even more the women who would actually make good companions. It has always been like this, and there have always been men and women who promise miracle ways to catch anyone you want. The truth is that the process is extremely simple and the pros are simply the ones who are comfortable approaching other people, and capable of maneuvering conversations subtly in the directions they want them to go. Any “hot” guy or girl can get all the attention, gifts, and sex they want with very little effort. That doesn’t mean they will find the people they will like the most of course, only that they will be bombarded with people wanting to audition for the part.
The rest of us have to deal with the first 30 seconds of meeting the women we want, and the more we want that woman, the harder those first 30 seconds are. This is why neuro-linguistic programming (brainwashing, or hypnosis techniques) were popular in the early 1990’s. Beating down a woman’s ego is always a popular standby, as it feeds into the hero of the hour method of feeling confident enough to approach women. The same holds true with money: Having a large stack in your pocket and an even larger stack in your bank account is almost as good as being famous. You feel powerful, like you can simply buy the woman you want (if you so desired), or that you could buy the things she likes. Money has a certain power, but you don’t need it to get laid, and if you know how to get laid without having to spend money on women, you will save your money for better uses.
What to say first, what to say after that, and then how to get her interested enough in you, to give you her phone number - and actually look forward to seeing you again; that is the dilemma men face every day when they see women they want to meet. As men, we see women e-v-e-r-y-w-h-e-r-e, not just at bars and nightclubs. Who’s to say that the girl dancing with three of her friends at a night club is more attractive to you than that girl you (almost) met at the Renaissance Faire last weekend? If you are into chicks in bodices and overskirts, you will find girls you like a LOT better at Faire than you will at any bar.
Also, let’s say that you do approach the girl at the bar, use a line on her, and buy her a drink. Five minutes later what are you saying to her that keeps her interest, or yours? What conversational topic is solid enough to make hr think of you as interesting, sexy, or desirous in any way? You know what you like, and you have no idea what she likes, other than perhaps attention, dancing, and free drinks. If you are into dancing, there you go. But if you are like most young American men (who don’t like dancing at bars, and generally see it as a waste of time except to get laid) just what was it that you were going to wow her with, so that you can get either laid now, or a first and second date? Life is just unfair that way.
A much better approach is to fish where the fish YOU LIKE are. Why do you think 12-step meetings are the world’s greatest hook up joints? Using the previous renaissance fair example, at least you know that you both like “Faire” and that gives you at least fifteen different angle to start with. “Did you see the joust?” “How may years have you been doing Faire?” “I work at the tomato both.” “There’s a naked dance party tonight at the Barbarian camp. Wanna have some fun?” Any of these relative topics can serve as circumstantial excuses to communicate with her and establish or deepen initial contact. The same holds true for any situation or circumstance you find yourself in. Like angry chicks? Go to a protest! Bond with the girls there and get going! Nothing stirs up sexual passion like a passion for a cause, hobby, or an event. This is why rock concerts are hot ticket items for dates. For more on all of this (solutions, not theory) get yourself a copy of our book The Easiest Way to Meet and Pick Up Girls—EVER!! and start getting lots of dates.
The next problem that needs to be solved is the issue of the first 5 minutes of meeting a woman. Those first five minutes any seduction are critical. This is where the girl you just met will decide IF and WHEN she will EVER have sex with you. Once you have broken the barrier between you two and are actually looking at each other, talking, and sizing each other up, it is time to turn this chance encounter from a simple hello into something that will have a positive emotional impact on her. Again, here there are several schools of thought: berate the woman until she feels so badly about herself that even YOU look like a sexual god to her, or the opposite school praise her in the hopes that you will be the only one who has ever given this kind of attention, and she will feel the need to (slurrrp) reciprocate. Show off your tattoos, muscles, gun collection, expensive watch, or any other accomplishment or possession that you feel gets woman all hot for you. Or, you can look for commonalities, bonds that make her feel comfortable with you (so you can touch her) but at the same time excited to know this new dynamic person (you), so she will get horny for your touch.
This is a lot to ask from a few minutes of conversation, which is why alcohol, expensive watches, fame, or immediate danger helps. You either have to take in the surrounding area (where you are at) and make that work for you, or change the scenery to a place that WILL work for you, (“Why don’t you come up and see some of my etchings?”). The basics never change. Get that through your head now. Millionaires and multi-millionaires use the same techniques “pick up artists” use, which are the same techniques you can use tonight: divide and conquer (get her alone if you can seduce her with your charm), alcohol loosens inhibitions, grand (but casual) displays of wealth and/or fame (or at least popularity) and/or power work on a LOT of women, and touch. At some point you have to break the touch barrier. We like palm reading for so many reasons, but you really have to see this in action to realize how impossibly smooth this can be, and it doesn’t cost you a dime.
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